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  • January 30, 2021
  • MKB Team

Treating the Girl and Boy Child Equally

Today, raising sons and daughters equally is the trend all over the world, and India, albeit slow, has realized that gender quality begins at home. Like always, the examples set at home by parents and other family members shape the perception of the next generation about important issues like gender and equality.
New parents have been instrumental in shattering gender stereotypes that used to dominate our society. More husbands have been wearing hats that were worn strictly by wives. ‘Sharing iscaring’ is clearly the new mantra and the new normal for a successful parenting relationship.

If you want your children to be successful parents, educating them
about women’s rights and gender equality is an absolute must, and
this can only be brought about by raising sons and daughters equally.
Here are a few tips to go about it.

  •  Talk about the issue
    Have a conversation with your children about the importance of
    gender equality and the pertinence of women’s rights in society.
    Speak to them why we must strive to reach a gender-equal world
    and highlight the role played by women achievers. By doing so, you
    are enlightening them to pave the way for a better future for
    everyone. Kids should also get the attention of both parents equally.
    Gone are the days when the son got an extra morsel of food because
    of his sex. It is 50-50 when it comes to everything, including food
    proportion. Talk about it on the breakfast table!
  • Share the household work
    Parents should share the unpaid household work. It is generally that
    women bear the brunt of the load when it comes to activities like
    cleaning, cooking, and taking care of the children and elderly. In
    some cases however, the husbands have stepped forward to explore
    previously unknown areas. But there’s a long way to go!
    Similarly, when children are engaged in household work, there
    should be no division that this is a girl’s job and that is a boy’s job. It
    is just because of this unfair classification and segregation of work
    that countless girls and women have missed out on equal
    opportunities to study in a school, college or pursue a career. Both
    boys and girls should be involved in household chores from an early
    age and do stuff equally.
  • Have diverse role models
    Introduce your children to role models irrespective of gender, colour
    race, culture and country. They should learn about reformers like
    Raja Rammohan Roy who started widow remarriage, Mother Teresa
    who spread love as well as Abe Lincoln who abolished slavery.
    Encourage them to watch men’s and women’s sports to have role
    models of both sexes. Inspire your children that they can become
    anything they want to be, irrespective of their gender.
  • Battle stereotypes
    It is to be understood that gender is not about the biological
    differences between the two sexes as commonly perceived, but
    more of a social construct. People in a society define what it means
    to be a boy or a girl, or male or female. We blindly follow this social
    conditioning without challenging it and expect our children to adhere
    to gender roles that are specific and limiting in nature. Thankfully, the times are changing now! But more stereotypes need to be
    challenged and broken. According to research, children start
    absorbing stereotypes as early as age 3. That’s precisely the need for
    an early discussion on gender roles in a bid to challenge the
    preconceived notions assigned to men and women in all areas. For
    example, it is still perplexing to some in our country that there could
    be male nurses in a hospital as it is still thought that nursing is a role
    strictly for women. We also suffer from unconscious gender biases
    like these as we perceive roles based on the set patterns and
    expectations of society. With more and more women entering the
    defence forces, it’s hardly a man’s world today. So one can hardly set
    expectations about what kind of work men and women should do.
    Why not make it simpler and leave it to each individual what work
    they want to do instead? Teach your children to be vocal and speak
    out against any form of gender inequality they witness or
    experience. Just knowing about it won’t do. One has to speak up for
    it.
  • No body shaming
    Sadly, our world revolves in the way society, popular culture and the
    media wants it to revolve as we compare ourselves to the beauty
    standards set by them. We are constantly reminded that it is
    desirable for women to be fair. We strive to be good looking instead
    of intelligent as we compete to match our looks with other people.
    This need to be judged by our physical appearance has reached
    monstrous proportions and we stoop to body shaming others who
    fail to meet our standards of perfection.
    Parents must lead by example when it comes to body shaming as
    children will only emulate your speech and actions. Don’t be critical
    of body form and avoid racist, sexist or negative stereotypes of any type of body standard. Make it clear to children that it matters how you act in life, more than how you look!

    Was this article helpful for you? What’s your POA for raising sons
    and daughters equally? Do write in to us!

    Q&A
    You ask and we answer!

    Do parents raise their sons and daughters differently?
    Radhika Bhaseen, Mumbai.
    Whilst parents may not intend to treat sons and daughters
    differently, research shows that they do. Sons appear to get
    preferential treatment in that they receive more helpful praise, more
    time is invested in them, and their abilities are often thought of in
    higher regard.

    Are sons or daughters harder to raise?
    Mukti Ramani, Chennai.
    Among men, 58% say boys are easier to raise, while 24% say girls.
    The gap is smaller with a 21-point gap among women, who also
    believe boys are easier to raise than girls, but by 50% to 29%.

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