Raising sons and daughters equally
- January 30, 2021
- MKB Team
Treating the Girl and Boy Child Equally
Today, raising sons and daughters equally is the trend all over the world, and India, albeit slow, has realized that gender quality begins at home. Like always, the examples set at home by parents and other family members shape the perception of the next generation about important issues like gender and equality.
New parents have been instrumental in shattering gender stereotypes that used to dominate our society. More husbands have been wearing hats that were worn strictly by wives. ‘Sharing iscaring’ is clearly the new mantra and the new normal for a successful parenting relationship.
If you want your children to be successful parents, educating them
about women’s rights and gender equality is an absolute must, and
this can only be brought about by raising sons and daughters equally.
Here are a few tips to go about it.
- Talk about the issue
Have a conversation with your children about the importance of
gender equality and the pertinence of women’s rights in society.
Speak to them why we must strive to reach a gender-equal world
and highlight the role played by women achievers. By doing so, you
are enlightening them to pave the way for a better future for
everyone. Kids should also get the attention of both parents equally.
Gone are the days when the son got an extra morsel of food because
of his sex. It is 50-50 when it comes to everything, including food
proportion. Talk about it on the breakfast table! - Share the household work
Parents should share the unpaid household work. It is generally that
women bear the brunt of the load when it comes to activities like
cleaning, cooking, and taking care of the children and elderly. In
some cases however, the husbands have stepped forward to explore
previously unknown areas. But there’s a long way to go!
Similarly, when children are engaged in household work, there
should be no division that this is a girl’s job and that is a boy’s job. It
is just because of this unfair classification and segregation of work
that countless girls and women have missed out on equal
opportunities to study in a school, college or pursue a career. Both
boys and girls should be involved in household chores from an early
age and do stuff equally. - Have diverse role models
Introduce your children to role models irrespective of gender, colour
race, culture and country. They should learn about reformers like
Raja Rammohan Roy who started widow remarriage, Mother Teresa
who spread love as well as Abe Lincoln who abolished slavery.
Encourage them to watch men’s and women’s sports to have role
models of both sexes. Inspire your children that they can become
anything they want to be, irrespective of their gender. - Battle stereotypes
It is to be understood that gender is not about the biological
differences between the two sexes as commonly perceived, but
more of a social construct. People in a society define what it means
to be a boy or a girl, or male or female. We blindly follow this social
conditioning without challenging it and expect our children to adhere
to gender roles that are specific and limiting in nature. Thankfully, the times are changing now! But more stereotypes need to be
challenged and broken. According to research, children start
absorbing stereotypes as early as age 3. That’s precisely the need for
an early discussion on gender roles in a bid to challenge the
preconceived notions assigned to men and women in all areas. For
example, it is still perplexing to some in our country that there could
be male nurses in a hospital as it is still thought that nursing is a role
strictly for women. We also suffer from unconscious gender biases
like these as we perceive roles based on the set patterns and
expectations of society. With more and more women entering the
defence forces, it’s hardly a man’s world today. So one can hardly set
expectations about what kind of work men and women should do.
Why not make it simpler and leave it to each individual what work
they want to do instead? Teach your children to be vocal and speak
out against any form of gender inequality they witness or
experience. Just knowing about it won’t do. One has to speak up for
it. - No body shaming
Sadly, our world revolves in the way society, popular culture and the
media wants it to revolve as we compare ourselves to the beauty
standards set by them. We are constantly reminded that it is
desirable for women to be fair. We strive to be good looking instead
of intelligent as we compete to match our looks with other people.
This need to be judged by our physical appearance has reached
monstrous proportions and we stoop to body shaming others who
fail to meet our standards of perfection.
Parents must lead by example when it comes to body shaming as
children will only emulate your speech and actions. Don’t be critical
of body form and avoid racist, sexist or negative stereotypes of any type of body standard. Make it clear to children that it matters how you act in life, more than how you look!
Was this article helpful for you? What’s your POA for raising sons
and daughters equally? Do write in to us!
Q&A
You ask and we answer!
Do parents raise their sons and daughters differently?
Radhika Bhaseen, Mumbai.
Whilst parents may not intend to treat sons and daughters
differently, research shows that they do. Sons appear to get
preferential treatment in that they receive more helpful praise, more
time is invested in them, and their abilities are often thought of in
higher regard.
Are sons or daughters harder to raise?
Mukti Ramani, Chennai.
Among men, 58% say boys are easier to raise, while 24% say girls.
The gap is smaller with a 21-point gap among women, who also
believe boys are easier to raise than girls, but by 50% to 29%.
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