Parenting Mantras To Help Overwhelmed Moms

Parenting Mantras to help your when you are overwhelmed

Is parenthood overwhelming you? High time you opt for these 10 Mantras to up your parenting game!

Being a parent as a feeling might come easy when you see a cute chubby kid, giggling with a serene twinkle in those dreamy eyes, but things go for a toss when that kid is your's and most of the time those eyes cry big fat tears instead of twinkling with giggles, howls like there is no tomorrow and doesn't let you sleep. But no matter how much of a doting parent you are, you can't always keep your calm in such situations and that is understandable as well! Although in no condition, you can scream on your little one because even they are oblivious about their behaviour which is causing you exhaustion, even the ones who are grown up, they differ from you on the ideological front.

To sum it up, parenting can be exhausting (don’t we say this enough?) and we wish to offer some tried and tested solutions which might help you in making this journey smoother and happier for both you and your child. The idea of positive parenting stems from a place where you as a parent are expected to keep your patience at the ultimate level while you are screaming loud inside your head. The worst part is we expect the child to be in the best behaviour, without throwing tantrums, but the same goes for us, we are supposed to keep our calm as well.

What is the ideal plan then? How to deal with kids effectively?

The idea is to identify the situations that leave you feeling overwhelmed, triggered or annoyed by. The next course of action is to take a preemptive course of action which is either deep breathing, stepping away from your child for a 5 minute timeout and so on.

But we are about to share more than two ways to handle yourself in this situation of daily distress as a parent.

1. Bond your way to happiness

It can be one of the reasons why your child is giving you a hard time. You are most likely not spending enough time with your child and that is making them disconnected from you, hence the alienation and tantrums. Bond more with your child rather than yelling at them and see how these day to day disagreements dissolve eventually.

2. It’s not the end of the world

Not eating their food, being fussy or constantly whining, let's face it, every child is bound to show you such behaviour. Taking it too much on yourself can firstly take a toll on you, majorly, plus might put way too much burden on the child. It is in the nature of children to be naturally fussy about one thing or the other. They are confused and don’t know how to express their emotions. Help them navigate this space rather than being too strict and scaring them away.

What is more important is how you dealt with this situation, hence, try to be more patient and understand that disobeying you once in a while is not the end of the world.

2. You can't actually win by force

Here winning is very metaphorical. Being the eldest and the most mighty, you can win by force physically but nothing will make you win their heart whenever force is applied from your end. There are no two teams but one. You and your child are on the same team. As a parent, you need to bridge that gap. After that, you need to make your actions win their tiny and soft hearts, because force can never let you achieve that.

4. You ought to be the harbinger of peace

Your little one doesn't understand self-control or even emotions for that matter. All they understand is getting food on the tables and throwing tantrums. Also, occasionally wetting their beds. Kids are kids after all and expecting them to behave like adults is not the wise thing to do. We can of course teach them all we must, but they will only learn gradually. There is only you in the room who is calm and peaceful in this tussle. You have to calm the situation down and yourself.

5. Accept more, expect less

After all, we are dealing with a child. A little munchkin, new to the world trying to understand feelings, feelings they don't even know exist yet! Be open minded, let them be and ask yourself how can we manage this situation to direct their behaviour in a constructive manner, rather than lash out on them and dull the environment of your house and the morale of your child.

6. Keep your control in check

For you, it can be morning breakfast, but it can be very important for your little one what they are eating. Simply put, they don't understand what is important and what they should compromise on, they don't know that breakfast is good for them. Just like you know the fidelity of this situation, they don't. Hence you must practice control and patience of a whole new level.

7. After all, he/she is just a Kid

Give those little big eyes a passé. He/she is just a kid. Don't expect maturity. They can never be adults at that age. They will be, someday. But that day is far, so very far.

8. This is not a drill.

The day you signed up for this, you knew it wasn't going to be an easy game. Parenthood is very difficult, it is exhausting, it is too much to handle every single day. But you can win this game by understanding your little player and also that victory has a whole new meaning when you are a parent, on some days it means failing only to teach your little one something important.

9. Forgive | Forget | Move Forward

This parenting mantra is the ultimate pearl of wisdom. The bond you have with your child is way more important than any kind of pain you feel in a certain situation. Bottling yourself up is never the answer. Let go mom!

10. Change will come. Someday.

One-day things will turn out good and they will realize they were hard on you. If not today, then maybe tomorrow. Didn't you feel this with your parents? It is a cycle and the same kid will come around because that's how kids are.

These 10 parenthood commandants are a reminder that your bond with your child is more important than a fight. So don't let that upset your relationship or the vibe in the house. Keep calm and have a more positive approach to every situation, okay supermom?

Try these out and let us know if they made any difference to your relationship with your children!